Husband and wife - that's proud! You can hear this expression, respect, dignity, community, unity and love. But how many couples can boast of meeting all these conditions? Does the passing of years do not look differently at our companion in life, if at all even look at him? Reading the book "Husband and Wife" asks many such questions to which no answers. It forces us to reflect on themselves, the partner, the relationship, on our advantages and disadvantages. It also shows that nothing is given to us once and for all that they do not always have the irrevocable right to everything we have, and most importantly - that you can not hold another man.
my opinion Zeruya Shalev - Israeli writer - perfectly demonstrates the laws governing the relationship between two people and the impact of our behavior is what we have in life happens.
know the title characters in their own home. The word "home" evokes associations such as asylum, safe and warm. However, these adjectives can not be describe the state house in Newman. Here we feel tension, unexpressed resentment, anger and mutual resentment, which for years grow layer by layer. One morning the husband - Udi - after returning from another trip, which is an expression of escape from the house, can not get out of bed, can not move any part of his body. Since then, the marriage Na'amy and Udiego "something" starts very slowly changing. The whole shaky structure, which formed a year, it becomes less stable. The disease is an incentive to wake up from sleep and is an incentive to seek the cause the existence of a state in which they find themselves. After recovering Udiego, Na'ama still trying to maintain what had crashed. Desperately to convince myself that it is not so bad, that everything else could it be otherwise, but the husband does not give her the choice, placing it a fait accompli.
Only at the moment when the Na'ama be alone with my thoughts begin to understand the errors that they committed, getting to know yourself and your tastes. Paradoxically, therefore, what initially seemed like a tragedy, it was good that opens his eyes.
The book Shaley I saw many truths, many dependencies that made me so impressed that they can not logically describe, although I finished reading the book over a week ago.
Perhaps the most struck me is that man does not know how strong it is until she gets in a situation in which this force requires. When nothing changes, and each day is the same, one can not see what we are doing badly or inappropriately. We think about it well, we see fault in others, others want to change its own image, forgetting that each person is entitled to their own opinion and way of life, different than ours. To change or development, we often need the stimulus. Then we start to look for other solutions and ways of life.
Shalev shows that it is wrong to live in unhealthy symbiotic relationship with another man, because we make him responsible for our lives, our mood and choices. And no one has the strength to be responsible for two lives.
So let us not forget that each of us creates a separate entity and only tolerance, respect and lack of dependence, we will help create a growing relationship.
In describing this book should not forget about the specific form that used the author. The entire novel is one great thought. It lacks dots, question marks and dashes during the dialogues, and is more than enough commas. At first I could not get used to this and a little irritated me that form, but with each new party more in the form of wczuwałam Na'amy lost and I felt that what I read this flight of ideas, play scenes that can not be arranged in such a chaotic and permeated the life of illusion.
After reading this, I consider that this treatment was aimed to reproduce the nature of history and Udiego Na'amy.
recommend those who have something in life is still missing, including those who are dissatisfied with their relationship and they seek the cause in the second person, to those who are interested in relationships between people, as well as those who simply want to know the ordinary-extraordinary story.
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